“Wow. She looks amazing. I wonder what her secret is!”
“Look at how beautifully happy her and her husband are. What a perfect relationship.”
“Have you seen her house?! It looks like it was decorated straight from a Pinterest board.”
“She has multiple jobs and is quickly climbing up the career ladder. She has it all together!”
“She’s such a great blogger. She’s a mom, has a full-time job, does her own workouts and still finds time to blog.”
Sound familiar? Yep. Unfortunately, they sound all too familiar to me as well.
It’s easy to look at someone else’s life and imagine that they have it all together. The perfect job. The perfect relationship. The perfect friends. The perfect house. The perfect car. I mean hey – that’s all we see on social media, isn’t it?
Social media has turned into somewhat of a bragging platform, in its own right. People (myself included) often only highlight their greatest accomplishments. And there’s nothing wrong with this! I love celebrating my friends’ accomplishments and love to see people achieving great things in life. It motivates me and inspires me to better myself.
But, you must remember people are only showing you their HIGHLIGHT REEL. They don’t show you everything.
For example, let’s examine how my life may appear to some via social media, versus what it’s really like:
My Facebook profile picture:
Caption: “Love what you do and you’ll never work a day in your life” or somethin’ like that…”
Reality: I do work every day of my life. Really hard. I have three jobs and go from one job to another, often all three in one day. Is it easy? Nope. Is it worth it? You betcha. But pretty sure the former makes for a more interesting caption. Oh and as far as frolicking on the beach in a sports bra and little tiny shorts in front of a high-quality camera is concerned… I have to consistently remind myself to love the skin I’m in (<- just to extra embarrass myself I had to throw that one in there) since society seems to love telling us otherwise!
A recent HealthNutJulie Facebook post:
Caption: “There’s a healthy recipe for everything, I tell ya! Making these ASAP (and currently drooling on my desk)….”
Reality: Yep, probably drooling on my desk from falling asleep because I’m an idiot and stayed up til 12 last night when I promised myself I’d be in bed by 10 p.m. every night. And making a recipe ASAP? Sure, let me jump right on that. I’m sure if I left work, they’d understand….(Hey, I would for cinnamon streusel protein muffins).
A recent HealthNutJulie Instagram post:
What it looks like: I am so organized. I color coded my clothes and neatly packed them in my gym bag the night before, along with each of my healthy meals.
Reality: I was running around my house, forgot my socks, had to run back home to grab a tupperware because I didn’t want to spend money on lunch (have three jobs and still frugal lol), took a shower but didn’t have time to blow dry my hair so I went to work looking like a wet dog.
See what I mean? And these are only just a few!
By no means am I saying that what I post on social media is fake. In fact, I try to do the opposite! And that’s why I’m showing you what really goes on in my life – I don’t want you to feel bad because you don’t think you have it “all together.” NONE OF US DO!
I wrote a blog post about this because I’ve caught myself doing this a lot lately – comparing myself to others – when in reality, I don’t know half of what they’re going through. I see my married friends in “perfect” relationships and envy that, but I don’t see what goes on behind the scenes. I see “fitspos” with the perfect bodies, but I don’t see the hard work they put in to get those bodies. I see seasoned trainers with 15 clients, living the dream of working as a personal trainer full-time, but I don’t see when they were first starting out and had one client.
We don’t see the struggle – we only see what others want us to see.
So next time you’re scrolling through social media, becoming envious of someone who looks like they have it all together, just remember: you can’t compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.
The only person you should be competing against is YOU, trying to be better than you were yesterday.